But why is the other perspective wrong?

In life, there are many times where there is a perspecitive or a reasoning or an argument or a person that you disagree with. I think it's good to try to be right, not to "stick it to the man", but to do the correct things for the correct reasons. To find truth, or at least try to. When you are presented with an opposing view, there's a million things conscious and unconscious you surely do to figure out if you should change opinion or not.

I want to talk about one thing that is pretty simple to apply if you keep it in mind but I see very often missed: if you think some person is wrong, you have to be able to tell why. If you just think the other person is "stupid", then you're probably wrong. Or, rather, I would argue that you can't have proper confidence that you're right.

This is a bit oversimplified, but I think it gets the point across. If you really want, you can think a person is stupid but you should be able to tell with as much detail as possible in what way and why are they being stupid. Or you could be less judgemental, which is probably better.

It's important to do this because if some person is doing something that seems totally unreasonable to you then you might just be missing something. This can cause a lot of frustration from the other party since they might understand that you are the one, in fact, that is in the wrong and they might even know exactly why but you might not be listening. That's not a nice place to be in, and it's not too hard to dig yourself out of it.

It might also happen that none of you are understanding where you're disagreeing, and often the disagreement is on different things for each person based on the thing they think the other person is arguing. Here it's also useful to try to understand why they're saying something.

If you can't figure out why some person thinks something, then it's a good idea to try to clarify. You can directly ask or you can create scenarios that would be true if the thing you disagree with was actually true (but make sure to not be condescending when doing this). This idea is related to doing min-max searching for yourself, which I will probably write about some day.

That's all, have a nice day and make the world a better place :)